Question by Chaos Theatre: Stephen Fry on how “women don’t like sex” Your opinions on the matter?
http://www.heraldsun.com.au/ipad-application/stephen-fry-criticised-for-female-sex-remarks-and-indecent-tweeting/story-fn6bn80a-1225946307930
Best answer:
Answer by Ty Poe
Clearly he is no authority on the subject. I know without a doubt that women *do* enjoy sex.
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i find it strange that to prove i like sex, i should be having it in some shrubbery.
why would he think that?
There is much truth in what he says.
I’m a bit confused on how a gay man can offer such an opinion. On the other hand, he is right about one aspect – women don’t seem to go kerb crawling, etc as much as men do. But I think that might have more to do with the fact that sex is more readily available, rather than not liking sex.
truth
women only like your wallet
If women don’t like sex, then why do we have bar skanks?
“Anecdotal Evidence”
He is unquestionably, full of sh**.
On most points I do agree with him, most women are not as excited as men about sex.
In a relationship we sometimes do it just to make the man happy. BUT it doesn’t mean we are not interested at all. Women wants to feel desired, and when you are new in a relationship you are automatically more aroused because you know this guy is still getting to know your body and you are kinda “showing off” still, but when the relationship gets to a few years and a marriage, the women don’t have anything to show off anymore and sex becomes boring.
Not everyone will agree with me but that’s my point of view.
maybe we just don’t like dangerous sex, like the cruising areas that Gay men do, this seems really dangerous, and I rather know my mate than not know his name, we are just more evolved and less animalistic I suppose
LOL @ Alex’s answer 😀
Stephen Fry is completely misinformed
He is trying to compare some men’s hunt for casual sex with most women’s desire for sex in a relationship. The TYPE of sex men and women prefer might vary, but that’s not to say that women don’t like sex a great deal with a committed partner. I hardly think he is an authority on straight women.
My beleif is there are several point as to why women “appear” to not like sex.
1. Socially it is still unacceptable for women to be promiscuous.
2. Women chose different men for different experiences.
If a woman wants to have amazing unadulterated sexual experience, she will chose an entirely different man than the one she will chose to marry and have a family with. Nice guy vs the bad boy
3. Past experiences affects current relationships. What women learn throughout their childhood and teenage years forms “her” reality when it comes to sexual experiences. So depending what she learned of her experiences, determines her sexual future. People only change their opinion, if they realize through self analysis that their belief aren’t congruent with reality….
My experience is when a woman has a high interest level in a man, she ALWAYS want to have sex with him. She might not openly express her intent, but the willingness is there.
TDL
I bet he has problems with women himself.
To make a generalization…
Men often (sometimes) can enjoy sex with a wide variety of partners.
Women tend to gravitate toward having much sex with one partner.
A guy who claims such a thing is either gay or simply has not had sex with women who actually want to enjoy it with him.
I fcuking adore Stephen Fry. If I were a particularly sentimental person I would call him my idol. He’s right about almost everything else, so I won’t hold this clanger against him.
I suppose his thoughts are really just another manifestation of the virgin/sl*t dichotomy. Also, he said in the documentary he did on his cyclothymia that he’s never had the trademark promiscuity and hypersexuality associated with bipolar, so presumably he’s admitting that he only uses sex as a bargaining tool to keep his boyfriend, given that he says women only see it as the price of a relationship? Odd.
well um, he just stereotyping. I know plenty of young females who have had sex in bushed with their bf etc… they’re called “Ladettes” So it is not true,
@thunder @ crr women who say women want it to be in a relationship or women like 1 partner are also misinformed it’s just stereotyped, the sexes are random. Women cheat equally too so how is this women not liking sex. wtf?!
That’s ridiculous and completely wrong. I used to like him but those are incredibly stupid comments, and obviously he has no idea.
Straight people have casual sex all the time. And plenty of gay men do not. However, because most people are straight, straight casual sex is more mainstream. That’s why there aren’t specific meeting spots – because it happens in far more places in society. The article is right, honestly bars and clubs are pretty much the straight equivalent of that, and I know plenty of other unusual circumstances where straight people I know have hooked up. Not to mention parties. I’m a university student and while I have many gay acquaintances and friends, I have also been to parties where for purely statistical reasons there are no gay people…and people hook up. They don’t need to go to specific spots because at simple casual events they’re surrounded by people of the opposite gender wanting the same! For straight people, at least the attractive ones, most people they meet could potentially be interested in them. For gay people it’s a minority (10%?), hence the need for more specific arrangements.
I also think there is a culture surrounding gay men which has been created where casual sex is encouraged and looked upon favourably. From adolescence, teenage boys especially gay ones are encouraged by their peers to do it. A woman having casual sex can be insulted for being a slut, for various historical reasons to do with religion, reproduction and other factors that have left remnants. Additionally, I know women who will think “I need to get my rocks off” but they won’t go for a stranger behind a bush, they’ll go for a close male friend, or ex, something like that. Stephen Fry said himself when he had sex with a woman it was a close friend, and at her initiation. There are more risks with the unknown for women, like pregnancy, risk of being physically overpowered and attacked. Obviously the social contexts are going to have a huge affect on people’s behaviour.
While I can see how you can come to that assumption, I also think it’s completely naive and not considering all factors.
Well I found it pretty misogynistic and unfounded but sadly I have came to expect that from other men. Women love sex but most men are just in it for themselves and don’t go the extra mile to please their partner but then they get surprised when their partner doesn’t value or want sex as much as them. Me personally I would feel like I have raped my girlfriend if she didn’t enjoy it. It’s really sad guys don’t realize that’s it’s just as much about her as it them.